Proverbs 4:23 tells us, “Above all else, guard your heart, for it is the wellspring of life.”
We Christian women are called to be confident in the love that God provides. With our self-esteem constantly targeted by the media, it is sometimes difficult to remember that the Lord created us to be a treasure won by a determined and respectable man. Unfortunately, our society encourages women to be the hunters instead of the hunted.
Nine out of 10 males I personally interviewed say that when a woman pursues them, it highlights two very unattractive attributes: insecurity and desperation. So why do women do it? Is it because we are impatient and unwilling to wait for Mr. Right to come our way or because we are craving male attention?
Both of these reasons are a result of not trusting the Lord. He has provided a way to fulfill each of our needs. When we feel uncared for, He assures us in places like Jeremiah 33:11 that His love is always with us. When we feel that unattractive, He whispers through Psalm 139:14 that we are fearfully and wonderfully made.
So when a man pursues us, we need to remember who God designed us to be.
- We show obedience to the Lord by investing time and emotion only in solid Christian men.
- We show respect for ourselves by giving our time only to men that have the courage to ask us for our number and not cowardly giving us his in case we want to hang out sometime.
- We show value by accepting dates that require time and thought and not accepting “we can do whatever you want to do” pseudo-dates.
- We show loyalty by humbly going to God in prayer concerning each gentleman that requests a relationship with us.
- We show honor to God by saving sex for marriage and dating only men who are dedicated to following this command.
Even though movies like No Strings Attached and American Pie give a degrading view of male and female relationships, this should not be the reality in Christian dating relationships. We must all guard our hearts from the lies with which we are daily bombarded and combat them with the truth God has made clear to us: He loves us, we are fearfully and wonderfully made, and He is faithful to provide.
After all, we are supposed to be loved as Christ loved the Church. So why would we settle for less?
Our guest author is Amy Royall. She is a junior at Liberty University and an active member of the LU chapter of Concerned Women for America.